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My Intro, links, & the Bastard Nation Action Alert – Stop New Jersey A1406/S799 Today!

This post has three parts:

  • My introduction
  • Some links towards context & historical perspective on the situation in New Jersey
  • The Bastard Nation Action Alert- Stop New Jersey A1406/S799 Today!

Introduction-

New Jersey’s A1406/S799 is NOT an adoptee rights bill.

It is yet another fake/conditional access for a lucky few at the direct cost of the human/civil/identity rights of others bill. Like so many other states this year, New Jersey’s legislative disaster is once again, disingenuously cloaked in the language of “adoptee rights.” (See my recent post Adoptee Rights 101: Class Bastard and how to recognize a genuine adoptee rights bill for a field guide towards determining the real from the fake.)

Among the bill’s many fatal flaws, if A1406/S799 were to pass:

  • New Jersey will carve out a new state granted veto privilege that can be used against adopted people’s original birth certificate access.
  • Those who would be granted the newly constructed veto privilege, Parents, will not have their rights come out unscathed either, as they would have to submit an intrusive and likely illegal medical and family history form to activate the contact veto or file a “contact preference form.” The state essentially extorting personal medical information under these conditions in order to enact this newly constructed veto or express a personal contact preference constitutes nothing less than a potential HIPAA violation. In states such as Oregon, where “contract preference forms” originated, not only do they not have the force of law behind them,  the states does not use such as a tool with with to extract a parent’s personal medical history. Real adoptee rights activists understand inherent to the toll adoption already extracts from our families must never be their genuine personal medical privacy, these are interpersonal and family matters best left to individuals, not new state bureaucracies.
  • A1406/S799 also stands to reclassify all infants who pass through New Jersey’s baby dump/ “safe haven” program as automatically having their birth certificates sealed as a default setting. Not only are most kids who endure the state’s baby dump system born in hospitals to identified mothers, as I documented, New Jersey is one of the states where Boarder Babies are routinely being folded into “Safe Haven” the state’s statistics/are being classified as “safe haven” babies. Thus Boarder Babies, those born in hospitals to indentified Mothers and abandoned post birth at the hospitals would have their identities stripped from them as a routine matter.

This means that in New Jersey under this legislation deceptively being sold as a means by which “adoptee rights” would be restored, New Jersey’s boarder babies and baby dump babies will now have their records sealed as default.

So called “Adoptee Rights”cannot be “won” at the direct expense of abandoned children.

Unsealing some original birth certificates while simultaneously using alleged “open records” legislation seal the original birth certificates of others is no victory. It changes the very meaning of this so called “adoptee rights” legislation to that of merely another tool to seal yet more records. But as they are the records of those with some of the least voice politically, certain individuals and organizations are apparently more than willing to “trade them away.”

A1406/S799 stands to gut the existing human/civil/identity rights of a number of kids who stand to eventually enter the state’s foster care or adoption systems.

What access it could grant to some New Jersey adoptees is a price that will be paid by the state’s abandoned, and later fostered or adopted kids.

To anyone who cares about the rights and access of anyone other than themselves, A1406/S799 cannot be considered any form of progress. It stands to do lasting damage to some of New Jersey’s most vulnerable populations.

The bill is not merely short sighted, it’s a classic example of bait and switch; it promises increased access to original birth certificates for one set of people, yet takes that same access from, those “safe havened” or boarder babies and  a next generation of New Jersey’s most vulnerable and voiceless.

It harnesses the desperation of one set of adopted people and their families and in a genuinely cynical political twist, utilizes that desperation back as a tool against yet another set of kids.

It’s both tragic and sad to see some adoptees fall for it.

Only those either unwilling to see the damage it will do, or who simply do not care about the damage it will do could support such a bill.


Some links towards context & historical perspective on the situation in New Jersey-

For more context on New Jersey, readers may want to revisit several of my earlier pieces:

As well as some of Bastardette’s NJ related posts:

Bastard Nation’s NJ related action alerts and letters:

Also see NJ related baby dump posts, some by me, some by Bastardette:

All of which is to say, this botched bill has been a long time coming. It’s merely the latest retread in a long lines of fake bills New Jersey has offered up year after agonizing year.

Bastards have tracked it as it developed through the years and have fought this crap down time and time again.

Please, read and act on the Bastard Nation action alert below, there is precious little time left to work to kill this fatally flawed bill. If passed, the damage will be lasting.

Keep in mind, no state that has ever passed conditional access legislation has ever revisited it or increased access to more adoptees later.

Those who settle for less than full equality and the full restoration of our human rights, on top of the damage they will do to their own rights, will sentence New Jersey’s abandoned kids to precisely the injustice they claim to be fighting.


Thursday, June 10, 2010

BASTARD NATION ACTION ALERT – STOP NEW JERSEY A1406/S799 TODAY!


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BASTARD NATION ACTION ALERT!

STOP DISCLOSURE VETO/WHITE OUT LEGISLATION IN NEW JERSEY!!!

ASK THE NEW JERSEY ASSEMBLY HUMAN SERVICES COMMITTEE:VOTE NO ON A1406/S799

DON’T LET PASSAGE OF BAD LEGISLATION IN NEW JERSEY THREATEN EFFORTS IN OTHER STATES FOR TRUE EQUAL ACCESS FOR ADULT

IT’S BACK!

A1406 (companion to S799 already passed in the NJ Senate) is scheduled for a hearing in the Assembly Human Services Committee on June 14.

Please contact committee members immediately and urge them to VOTE NO ON A1406/S799. See contact information below.If you are from or in New Jersey or have a New Jersey connection, be sure to mention it in your communication.

Be sure to put: “A1406 – opposition ” in the header

A1406/S799 is: restrictive, discriminatory, creates a new, special and temporary ”right” for "birthparents," and exempts the state’s adopted adults from equal protection and treatment regarding the release of the government-generated public record of their births.

The bill:

*includes a 12- month open enrollment period, starting after the Department of Health releases regs for A1406/S799 implementation, that allows "birthparents," to file disclosure vetoes before obcs, past and future, are unsealed

*authorizes the state to replace the original birth certificate, of those subjected to the DV, with a mutilated copy of the obc with all identifying information, including the address of the parent(s) at the time of birth (if it appears on the cert) deleted.

*requires "birthparents" who file a disclosure veto to submit an intrusive and probably illegal medical and family history form to activate the veto.

*requires "birthparents" who file a "contact preference form" to fill out the same intrusive and probably illegal medical and family history form.

*seals by default all “safe haven” birth certificates, even though most “safe haven” babies are born in hospitals to identified mothers.

*requires adoption agencies and adoption lawyers to receive a written veto status report from the state before they can release identifying information to adoptees

*requires the state to mount an "information" campaign to inform "birthparents" of their "protection" options

A1406/S799 IS NOT AN OBC ACCESS BILL.
A1406/S799 IS NOT ABOUT RIGHTS.
A1406/S799 IS ABOUT PRIVILEGE

Bastard Nation: The Adoptee Rights Organization opposes legislation that denies any adult adoptees access to their own original birth records on par with all other citizens. Please let the Health, Human Services, and Senior Citizen Committee know that this issue is not about relationships between adoptees and their "birthparents." It is about basic human and civil rights and the relationship between adoptees and the STATE of NEW JERSEY.

The New Jersey state government should not be in the business of denying adult adoptees access to their own birth certificates in a misguided attempt to appease a mythical adversarial standoff between adoptees and birthparents.

Inclusion of a disclosure veto in this bill, even within the 12-month "window of opportunity" perpetuates the violation of adoptee rights by making unaltered birth certificate access a privilege not a right.

Forcing "birthparents," under certain circumstances, to submit mandatory health and family history information to the state is intrusive and probably illegal.

Passage of bad legislation is New Jersey could easily undermine efforts of dedicated reformers who are holding the line for adoptee rights in other states.

New Jersey’s A1406/S799 is an abomination in light of the restoration of the right of original birth certificate access to all persons adopted in Oregon, Alabama, and New Hampshire, and Maine. Adult adoptees and all who support adoptee rights should stand united for unrestricted access laws and not sell out just to get a bill passed! Disclosure veto legislation is unethical and unjust!

Please e-mail the New Jersey Senate and urge them to VOTE NO ON A1406/S799

READ THE FULL TEXT AT: http://www.njleg.state.nj.us/2010/Bills/A1500/1406_I1.PDF

CONTACT INFORMATION.
The New Jersey Leg page has no list of email addresses, You need to go to each individual Rep member page and use the template http://www.njleg.state.nj.us/members/abcroster.asp

Human Services Committee:

Vainieri Huttle, Valerie – Chair
Rodriguez, Caridad – Vice-Chair
Angelini, Mary Pat
Biondi, Peter J.
Coutinho, Albert
Fuentes, Angel
McHose, Alison Littell
O’Scanlon, Declan J.
Tucker, Cleopatra G.
Wagner, Connie

Also write to Gov. Chris Christie
Proponents of A1406/S799 have asked supporters to sent letters of support to Gov. Chris Christie now. We urge you to do sent letters of opposition. Send letters no more than 250 words at this template: http://www.state.nj.us/governor/contact/

or contact him at:

Office of the Governor
PO Box 001
Trenton, NJ 08625
609-292-6000

Bastard Nation has submitted opposition testimony to the Human Services Committee, but will ot post it until after the hearing. We have also sent a letter to Governor Christie.

Adoptee Rights 101: Class Bastard and how to recognize a genuine adoptee rights bill

Yes, my blog has been quiet here for a bit, for a number of reasons, some of which I hope to write to a bit later on. In the mean time, I’ve obviously got a massive backlog of things to write, some of which I will get to, others, I may not.

That said, watching much of what has been going on in adoptionland as of late, particularly after the disastrous passage of the Illinois bill, over and over again falsely portrayed as “Adoptee rights legislation,”  it’s become increasingly clear that many people, particularly those new to the field (though even more sadly, some of those who are not) are unable to tell the difference between a genuine piece of adoption rights restoration based legislation and damaging or co-optive fake adoptee related legislation.

So I’m going to pull out to sort of the big picture basics here for a moment.


A short note on terminology.

I’m writing from an adoptee perspective  in this, primarily to other adopted people and specifically those interested in the field of adoptee rights. Which is somewhat distinct from search and reunion in that rights based work comes down to a class of people’s relationship to the state and the law.

Obviously though, Families of so called “origin” are also affected in that they too are barred access to their child’s original birth certificate (OBC)  as well as frequently other forms of documents pertaining to themselves, such as their personal health records from their birthing hospital stays, in ways that non-adopted children’s parents are not.

In the below I’m going to attempt to make some space for that reality by using terminology like “the full class of people denied access.”

Hopefully all readers will understand my goal of inclusivity, even as I focus a bit.

Going further than many, I would actually prefer to see full equity restored to all, including our families and that the state end the practice of records falsification and confiscation altogether, but again, that’s another post for another day.

As no state has done that to date, I can offer no existing examples thereof.

There is at least one state that demands documented Adoptee consent prior to contact for Parents, which I find repugnant; every bit as repugnant as Mothers or Fathers being asked to provide documented consent prior to contact for their children. Both are a fundamental subversion of the constitutional right to free association.

The below deals narrowly with adopted people as a class in the United States as well as our inequitable relationship to the state, and what recourse has been sought, and achieved or settled for to date.


The Why?

A snapshot of the current landscape, where activist demands must be directed,  and criteria for those seeking to correct the injustices.

First, let’s talk about what genuine adoptee rights based legislation in relation to OBC access must ultimately look like, and what it aims to do.

By way of a starting point, I wrote a very simple post portraying the basic lack of equality adopted people face back in 2007, The “joke’s” on us- Bastard access to our own records.

In the broadest possible sense, real adoptee rights bills, ballot measures, or even legal cases must have as their ultimate aim enshrining within law as close an approximation of equal status to adopted people as non-adopted people enjoy.

We seek equality.

This demand has inherent to it, an acknowledgement that the current status of adopted people under law in relation to OBC access, in all but the few states we have worked to pry open, and the two states, Alaska and Kansas that never sealed records, is NOT EQUAL to that of non-adopted people.

Non-adopted people pay a state mandated fee and receive a copy of a state held authentic record of an actual historical event, their birth certificates.

Adopted people as a class of people born in a particular state, in all but Kansas and Alaska, and now Oregon, New Hampshire, Alabama, and Maine are denied theirs. They pay the same fee, yet receive a state tampered with or amended birth certificate, some of which posit physical impossibilities, with key pieces of information removed, tampered with, or replaced with alternates. In short, adoptees are given a state sanctioned lie.

There are other states with conditional access, or partial access that amount to OBCs for a lucky few, with all others left behind.

In these conditional access states the class of adopted people born in the state is subdivided yet further. We receive not merely unequal treatment to our non-adopteed peers, we additionally endure inequitable treatment in relation to even other adoptees from the same state.

As our treatment under law is different to non-adopted people, we seek to remedy that through what avenues are open to us. In order to do so, we must first recognize to whom our grievance must be directed.

Our issue is at its core, not an interpersonal matter, such as in adoption reunion, but a matter between those barred access and the STATE. Thus it is from the state itself we must seek redress.

When the State in turn offers adopted people anything less than full equality to their non-adopted peers in relation to access to their state held documents, it deflects attention from the core issue, equality. In offering its various substitutes for full equality, the state seeks to maintain power and control.

It is the role of genuine adoptee rights activists then, to name but a few,

  • to understand their status as part of a broader class of people (see below) refusing to leave others behind
  • to maintain clear and single minded focus on the genuine goal, that of equity, and educate others along the way
  • reject offered substitutions, distractions, or attempts to divide and conquer that maintain state control and deflect from the goal of equality
  • clearly identify who genuinely holds power and what their conflicts of interest are
  • and settle for nothing less than full equality for all those denied access in an inequitable manner.

To clarify that first point,  core to the function of genuine adoptee rights activists is to understand the reality of how unequal treatment under law affects a classes of people.

This is not merely some personal or individual problem for which they seek merely some form of personal solution, but rather each of us are situated within a broader class of people who receive unequal treatment under law and thus any attempt to correct that wrong, must be applied across the full class of people denied access.

This adoptee rights work is grounded within a broader framework, internationally, of human rights, identity rights, and civil rights.

Genuine adoptee rights activists are not asking mere state granted privileges, which states can give or take at whim. but demand equal treatment under law.

Inherent to that is the concept that sealed records and state falsified records were a harm perpetrated against classes of people, and that this injustice of inequitable treatment under law must be rectified.


Examples of  genuine adoptee rights efforts

Oregon’s Measure 58 was the first genuine and successful restoration of full access for all a state’s adopted people to their Original Birth Certificates.

I’d ask readers please explore the Measure 58 Timeline as an archival reource for more detail as I am only going to briefly touch on an overview here.

It began as a statewide ballot measure. Voters had a straightforward yes or no decision.

A “Yes” vote would restore access, a “No” would maintain the sealed records system.

The complete text of the proposed law was as follows:

Upon receipt of a written application to the State Registrar, any adopted person 21 years of age and older born in the state of Oregon shall be issued a certified copy of his/her unaltered, original, and unamended certificate of birth in the custody of the state registrar, with procedures, filing fees, and waiting periods identical to those imposed upon non-adopted citizens of the State of Oregon pursuant to ORS 432.120 and 432.146. Contains no exceptions.

Voters approved the measure in November 1998 by a 57% “yes” vote.

Before it could go into effect, it went through several court challenges.

In July of 1999 the Governor added an amendment to Measure 58, a so called  voluntary “Contact Preference Form” that had no force of law behind it. (* see Ron’s comment below)

July 12, 1999

Governor Kitzhaber signed into law today HB 3194, an amendment to Measure 58 to provide for a voluntary “Contact Preference Form” to be attached to the original birth certicate.

The bill leaves untouched the rights of adoptees and respects the spirit of Measure 58 while alleviating concerns about its “fairness”. It is unamimously supported by supporters as well as opponents of Measure 58.

While the amendment has no legal affect on actual access, I, personally have never been happy with the precedent it set and how what is voluntary today could in other states or at other times be changed. (See my piece  Maine restores rights, records access, but once again, adds an odious “contact preference” form for further discussion of the issues raised by such.)

It is also deeply concerning in that it was added later, not inherent to the way the bill was crafted, and not voted upon by the voters of Oregon, yet today, many people confuse such and assume it was inherent to what the voters passed when Adoptee Rights activists and Oregon voters had no say in the matter.

Despite a long slow wind through the courts as attempt after attempt to to stop or at least stall it from going into effect , the effort to regain our rights thankfully would not die.

Tragically, however, while waiting for it to go into effect, Curtis Endicott, an Oregon born adoptee rights activist did.

September 13, 1999

PRESS RELEASE:
Adoptee Rights Spokesman Dies Waiting for Measure to Take Effect. Curtis Endicott died of a lifelong, undiagnosed lung ailment on Saturday, September 11th at age 51, while waiting for Oregon’s successful Adoptee Rights Initiative (Measure 58) to take effect.

Stalling tactics by our opposition can have very personal consequences, and must be understood for what they are, a fundamental interference with the human rights of adopted people and our families.

In May 2000 the U.S. Supreme Court denied the opponents appeal and Measure 58 was finally allowed to go into effect Tuesday May 30 at 5:01pm, restoring full OBC access to Oregon’s adult adoptees.

Despite the earlier gutted attempt in Tennessee that resulted in it becoming a conditional access state with vetoes (which were offered up by those seeking access themselves, i.e. the first vetoes came not from industry, but from so called “activists” )  Oregon was the first full access for all adult adoptees state that had restored access after having gone through a sealed period.

Adopted people AND their families (see the full page ad in the Oregonian and  the release, “Raped Birthmothers Voice Strong Support for Oregon’s Adoptee Rights Measure” as but two very tangible examples) worked together to support Measure 58.

In the aftermath of Oregon, through the efforts of activists and our families, three other states have been pried open:

  • Alabama in 2000 (which has a non-binding contact preference form)
  • New Hampshire in 2007  (which has a non-binding contact preference form)
  • Maine in 2009 (which has a non-binding contact preference form)

It’s important to note that in Maine in particular, there had been earlier attempts at a bill, but when it ceased to be a pure open records bill, the toxic contaminated version was fought down, clearing the way for a real bill to go forward.

It was only by first fighting back a conditional access bill that full access was later achieved.

Adoptee Rights activists who held out for a genuine full access bill took real heat from those who wanted to grab what little they could get in that earlier attempt, but history has shown repeatedly, once a bad bill goes through no one has ever successfully come back to add more access for others later on.

It’s also important to note that after Oregon, once that nonbinding voluntary “contact preference form” had been added to the bill as an amendment by the Governor, every state going forward that has fully opened records has included it as if such were simply normative at this point.

Oregon’s form makes reference to both preferring contact through an intermediary and information filing with the state’s voluntary registry, and voluntarily adding an updated medical history. While such are all voluntary today, they lay groundwork for mechanisms that may not be so voluntary at some future date.


Fake adoptee rights bills and efforts and conditional access states

Some of the many hallmarks of fake adoptee rights efforts often come down to how they treat adopted people as a class.

  • If an effort is poised to leave some behind, it’s a fake.
  • If it grants some access but what little access it grants comes at the direct expense of access for others, it’s a fake.
  • If it focuses on interpersonal relationships rather than the relationship of adopted people as a class to the state, it’s a fake.
  • If it doesn’t result in equitable treatment under law for both adopted people to non-adopted people AND for adopted people to one another, it’s a fake.

In many ways, looking any any given piece of legislation, one should evaluate it through the eyes of does this restore equality for adopted people or does it do further harm to (even a subset of) adopted people?

Or to put it far more plainly,  would supporting this screw other Bastards out of their human rights?

Let’s spell out some of those substitutions, distractions, and attempts to divide and conquer, naming some of the common tactics of those who  surrender grounding adoptee rights in a human/identity/civil rights perspective and instead fall prey to the siren call of conditional access measures:

  • efforts grounded in the quest for interpersonal search and reunion
  • efforts that utilize a need for family medical histories as a key component
  • efforts that insitutionalize reciprocity (you give the state X and in return you get some access, beyond normal fees non-adopted people are also subject to)
  • efforts that encompass interpersonal vetoes (access or contact)
  • efforts that rely upon or build new state mediated registries
  • efforts that create or support confidential intermediaries, doubly so commercialized or out outsourced to third parties CI systems
  • efforts that place religious institutions or figures in positions of power over our access or contact
  • efforts that reduce adoptee rights down to mere state granted privileges
  • efforts wherein the state would grant partial access to a select few, but at the direct expense of others
  • efforts that are prospective only (i.e. from this date forward, everyone that came before is screwed)
  • efforts that support access and lack of access assigned merely based upon arbitrarily set dates
  • efforts that toss some number of adopted people into essentially black holes, with little to no hope of ever gaining access
  • efforts that rely upon court orders to open records
  • efforts that conflate “voluntary” with “mandatory”
  • efforts that would move requirements from the voluntary column to the mandatory column
  • efforts that intentionally leave others in the broader adopted class behind
  • efforts that would result in redacted portions of people’s birth certificates (i.e. “white out” bills)
  • efforts that reinforce or institutionalize our inequality
  • efforts that create new state granted privileges over our lives to others
  • efforts that trade away human rights for partial access
  • efforts that would bar access for a set number of years (99 years in one such instance)
  • efforts rooted not in biological reality, but matching purely based upon any number of “this must be it!” notions
  • efforts that create in effect, without cause other than their membership in a class of people, preemptive restraining orders on those attempting to exercise their constitutionally protected right to free association
  • efforts that criminalize or create civil penalties for the possession of classes of information

Obviously, there are many more, but that’s a starting point.

(For more generalized readings pertaining to so called “compromise” legislation, see “Expendables”- the human toll of legislation that “compromises” us away or 73 adoptee’s Compromising On Adoptee Access? The Foot You Shoot May Be Your Own and my extended comment on it as some basic starting points.)

I could, and often have, written in great detail about these, but let me pull out just three examples to expound upon here.

Interpersonal matters

These are aspects that for non-adopted people, the state does not intervene in.

When non-adopted people need aspects of their family medical history for example, they do not go to a state registry to gain information that was essentially extorted from their family members.

When non-adopted people want to make contact with long lost family members, they are not state mandated to go through intermediaries, or pay for the “privilege,” nor submit their personal information to state controlled registries. Nor are they prohibited from making contact merely for being who they are, or growing up how they did.

As our goal is equal treatment under law, adopted people should not support measures that interjects state involvement into these personal matters, rather we should be demanding, the state restore to us the information it confiscated, and allow us to go about our lives unimpeded just as any other non-adopted individual would.

Efforts that focus upon interpersonal matters such as search and reunion or medical information do not result in equitable treatment to non-adopted people.

What they do result in, when such is focused upon in testimony or campaigns is the state attempting to provide mechanisms to “find you your mommy” or “get you some medical information.” Out of such have come state mandated reunion registries, confidential intermediary systems, family medical history registries etc.

Such structures do only further damage and do not result in equity.

The state has used medical history programs to essentially extort personal medical histories out of mothers collecting it and adding it registries, essentially creating an adoption based likely violation HIPAA, and extorting women to either hand over their personal medical histories or face no means by which to gain any hope of ever seeing their child again.

(For more on my objections to the use of the demand for personal medical histories see New Jersey- let A752 die: the conflation of family medical history with authentic restored access, white outs, and preemptive restraining orders among other nightmare senarios)

The creation of state mediated structures

A number of states have created mandatory registries and Confidential Intermediary programs (CI systems) granting power to often outsourced intermediaries over the most intimate aspects of one’s family life.

In some states, Confidential Intermediaries have been granted what amounts to a personal veto power over reunification, serving to keep apart the very people they are allegedly there to serve.

Often CI’s ultimately serve their own interests (financial or otherwise, for example the interests of the religious institution the CI may work for) or the state itself rather than that of  the individuals’ cases they process.

(See my posts and others’ brilliant posts linked from within these posts as but two of many examples, Legislation- IL HB 4623 and IL’s Kafka-esque Confidential Intermediary Hell or Catholic Charities offers up another lifetime’s worth of lies and false “reunion”)

Arbitrarily set dates as dictating access of lack thereof

Other conditional access schemes such as prospective legislation (“from this point onward”) or multi-tiered access based upon an arbitrarily agreed upon set of dates are also unacceptable to any genuine adoptee rights activist.

I’ve written extensively about, as but one example, Ohio’s black hole years (which is the group I was cast into) as part of its tri-tiered substitution bill for anything resembling actual adoptee rights.

(See my post Bastard Access- either we all go together or we don’t go at all- “Nobody gets left behind. Or forgotten.” and Activism- Ohio HB as but two of many examples.)

The key point to remember when looking at any conditional access measure is this,  once a state passes a bill it’s over for the foreseeable future. You only get that one shot to get it right.

No state that has passed conditional access legislation has ever “come back to clean it up later”or increased access further to more adoptees at a later date.

That’s why it was critically important in Maine to hold out for a clean bill.

States like Arizona, Arkansas, Colorado, Delaware, Illinois, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, North Carolina, Ohio, Tennessee, etc. have all had conditional access measures inflicted upon them and have never gone beyond the strictures placed upon them in those bad bills to open access further.

States that create the new found state granted privilege of vetoes are particularly heinous as going forward, even should a state open at some later date, they are now permanently saddled with the vetoed class. These are adoptees barred from gaining their own birth certificates unless and until the veto is removed or found unconstitutional.

Vetoes deserve their own short note in light of recent developments.

“Contact Preference” linguistic creep/evolution into a full on Access Veto

Vetoes have served to be a powerful weapon against adopted people and our rights.

Which may be why this past legislative session in South Dakota, an otherwise clean bill (that had come up to the very brink of passing the year before) got a veto slapped on it in committee by an opponent of the bill.

The South Dakota situation is particularly noteworthy as he didn’t call it the veto amendment that it was. It was insidiously mis-labled a “contact preference form.”

Far from Oregon’s contact preference form without the force of law behind it, South Dakota’s nasty little amendment would have had the force of law to prohibit access to one’s OBC.  (Thus it had the actual effect of a veto, never mind what pretty language the author of it wrapped it up in.)

Moral of the story?

It is vital to look at the actual EFFECT the proposed legislation would have rather than assuming that the words you read will have the effect you are familiar with and assume it will have.

(see South Dakota adoptees made to wait another year, both bills die)


Conclusions

In summary, those genuinely concerned with the current status of adoptee rights need to understand the differences between a genuine adoptee rights effort and a fake one.

Embracing the key concept of adopted people making up a (widely diverse!) class, rather than merely a set of individualized interpersonal and psychological needs can provide an important criteria for assessing any given tactic or campaign.

They need to learn how to read legislation not only in terms of understanding its implications for those in class Bastard, but ultimately also for our families and their rights, such as the ability to protect one’s genuine privacy in relation to medical records, something the state is demanding of mothers more and more, and for what the actual effects of said legislation will be, regardless of the terminology that is being utilized.

They need to understand that language can and will be intentionally co-opted, and that many measures calling themselves or more broadly portrayed as “adoptee rights legislation” are all to often nothing more than mere conditional access statutes being put forward in an effort to placate us, and divert us from the genuine goal of restored equality.

Such efforts to thwart our equality are simultaneously pro-active measures intended to maintain control and power.

Those who hold power over others rarely cede it willingly.

Those who advocate for adoptee rights would do well to also note a key difference between the real and the fake, genuine restoration of rights legislation can often be accomplished with minimal verbiage; you get the real thing, just like the non-adopted, no exceptions.

Legislative abominations like Illinois HB 5428 on the other go on for 80 pages, and build or butress many structures that non-adopted people are never subjected to.

Working towards the authentic restoration of adoptees’ rights requires both empathy and compassion, a willingness to take the time to understand what leaving someone behind means to those directly affected, yet that empathy and desire to see access restored must also be chained to a willingness to hold the line.

Anything less that full access restoration for all means the artificial creation of yet more people who are intentionally locked out and barred access.

All the more ironically, those who advocate such half assed measures rarely understand even the precarious position they place themselves in by doing so, for there remains the possibility that they themselves could be the ones to find themselves vetoed, or black holed, trapped forever on a passive registry with no staff or funding to ever change such, or have their access to their own relatives cut off by a state appointed intermediary.

The only way to ensure all gain full access is to work to ensure all gain full access.

There are no shortcuts, no work arounds, no “we’ll get to your rights later”s. All are the hallmarks of failure.

Far too many so called “activists” measure adoptee rights in terms of every individual who gains access becomes a victory, even if those pyrrhic so called “victories” come at the direct expense of the human rights of the Bastard next to them. This is short sighted selfishness, not anything that could be considered political activism.

It’s long past time we recalibrate our measure of what “victory” genuinely means to the victory is not won until all have their full human rights restored.

Speaking as one of those who was shoved down a black hole, it matters.

More on Illinois HB 5428- Bastard Nation Action Alert and the second BN letter to the Governor

Today’s Bastard Nation Action Alert on Illinois’s catastrophic HB 5428 and BN’s second letter to Governor Quinn.

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

BASTARD NATION ACTION ALERT: It’s Not Too Late to Stop Illinois HB 5428!

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It’s not to late to ask Illinois Governor Pat Quinn to veto HB 5428. Quinn will make his decision on the bill by the end of the week.

Even if you have already contacted the governor’s office, please do it again. Let the real voice of adoptees be heard.

Web contact (email) form: http://www.illinois.gov/gov/contactthegovernor.cfm

Springfield Office
Office of the Governor
207 State House
Springfield, IL 62706
Phone: 217-782-0244
FAX 217-763-8710
TTY: 888-261-3336

Chicago Office
Office of the Governor
James R. Thompson Center
100 W. Randolph, 16-100
Chicago, IL 60601
Phone: 312-814-2121
FAX 312-867-0801


Here is Bastard Nation’s second letter to Governor Quinn:

Bastard Nation: the Adoptee Rights Organization once more urges you to veto HB 5428, a so-called “adoptee rights” bill promoted as a progressive piece of legislation to correct Illinois’ long-standing Draconian treatment of its adoptees and their families of origin. Nothing could be farther from the truth.

The bill’s stated purpose and its final product are diametrically opposed.

The introduction to the bill reads: The General Assembly recognizes that it is the basic right of all persons to access their birth records, and, to this end, supports public policy that allows an adult adoptee to access his or her original birth certificate. The rest of the bill guts the “recognition of that “basic right,” putting unreasonable and outrageous restrictions on that “basic right:”

HB 5428 separates adoptees into two classes by date of birth and then into numerous subclasses of “access” and “contact” eligibility dependent on parental and state “consent.”

HB 5428 “grants” rights to some at the expense of others.

HB 5428 criminalizes adoptees that use information from the Illinois Adoption Reunion and Medical Exchange to locate and contact families of origin.

HB 5428 dictates relationships between adults.

.HB 5428 is a bill that adopted persons and their families of origin did not ask for and do not want. It has virtually no support from adoptee rights and adoption reform organizations in Illinois and throughout the country.

HB 5428 is NOT an original birth certificate access bill. HB 5428 is NOT an adoptee rights bill. HB 5428 is NOT an adoption reform bill.

Instead HB 5428 is an abomination that stalls genuine adoption reform in the state for decades. It does not have the support of any national adoption reform or adoptee rights organization. As other states move forward to restore the right of all its adopted citizens, Illinois, under the constrictions of this bill, will continue to deny equal protection to them.

Leave no one behind! Please veto HB 5428 and ask the legislature to come back with a clean bill that treats all Illinois adoptees as fully equal to non-adopted Illinoisans.

Urgent Action Alerts: Illinois and Rhode Island

Illinois-

HB 5428 has gone to Governor Quinn.

Time is running out to express you opposition to this travesty of a bill.

Even if you’ve contacted the Governor before, please make another effort, this bill will do tremendous damage to adoptee rights.

Bastard Nation’s Action Alert,

BASTARD NATION ACTION ALERT: STOP HB 5428 – WRITE GOV. PAT QUINN NOW

has contact information.

Unlike states where genuine records access has been restored, Illinois’ bill stands poised to leave an untold number of adoptees behind.

Far from simply being able to request your Original Birth Certificate (OBC) and have it provided upon request (as it in genuine open records states such as Oregon) even if this bill passes, adoptees in Illinois will still be forced to go through the “Confidential Intermediary” (CI) program, if they are even able to get in, AND always assuming they are able to afford it.

Even should adoptees be able to enter the CI system, some number of them may still find themselves subjected to disclosure vetoes, thus losing ANY chance of ever receiving their OBCs.

HB 5428 is NOT an open records bill.

Again, contact Governor Quinn and ask he VETO the bill.

Don’t let Illinois further gut what few rights Illinois adoptees still possess!


Rhode Island-

Rhode Island also has another bill that will also gut adoptees’ rights, this time by building an expanded veto system out to extended family members.

See my earlier post for more details and further links for reading,

Rhode Island’s legislative abomination: access for a lucky few purchased at the price of the human rights of others

Below is the full text of the Bastard Nation action alert on Rhode Island from earlier today.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

BASTARD NATION ACTION ALERT: STOP RHODE ISLAND S 2759/H7877

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BASTARD NATION ACTION ALERT

STOP RHODE ISLAND SB 2759/H7877

Black Lists Adoptees!
Creates and expands special rights and disclosure veto!

BILLS
S 2759
HB7877

On May 12, the Rhode Island House unanimously passed H7877, a bill that restricts the right of all Rhode Island adoptees to access their own birth certificates. Promoted as an “adoptee rights” and original birth certificate “access” bill, the bill, in fact, contains not only a “birthparent” disclosure veto but extends that special veto right to the parents and siblings of a deceased “birthparent.” In other words, some of the very people who may have caused the adoptee to be placed for adoption as a child are now authorized to keep the adoptee as an adult from getting his or her own birth certificate.

S2759, a companion bill, is currently in the Senate Health and Human Services Committee. That bill extends the special right veto even farther to include the parents and siblings of permanently disabled/incompetent “birthparents.”

Bill promoters say they will return later to pick up the left-behinds vetoed out of their rights. In over 40 years of tiered access and disclosure vetoes, however, no legislature has ever revisited to extend unrestricted access to all. States are obligated by law to honor all vetoes on file. Legislatures cannot unilaterally rescind in-place vetoes, even if a veto provision were removed prospectively by later law.

On May 14, in an attempt to show widespread support for S2759, a letter seeking bill endorsements, under the signature of S2759 sponsor Senator Rhoda E. Perry, Chairwoman Health & Human Services Committee and Paul Schibbelhute, New England Regional Director of the American Adoption Congress, was emailed to national/professional organizations. The email solicited (1) organizational letters of support for S2759 and (2)organizational statements stating a willingness to publicize RI adoptee access legislation“when” passed. The letters are to be sent to Sen. Perrry. (The full email is at here. http://ariadnegroup.org/acone.html)

The email contained links to general obc access policy statements or endorsements for a 2004 restricted access bill in New Jersey from several national organizations,including, CWLA, AAC, North American Council on Adoptable Children, and the EB Donaldson Adoption Institute. There were no links to endorsements or testimony for the current Rhode Island bills or any indication that these organizations outside of the AAC support the the current RI bill(s).

The most disturbing claim of this letter, however, is that “…new Hampshire and Maine had recently passed similar legislation.”

S2759/HB7877, in fact, are polar opposites. Bills in New Hampshire and Maine restored the right of obc access with no restriction, to persons adopted in those states, while S2759/HB2759 restores no right to access, and restricts access through the use of an expanded disclosure veto system; thus, creating a blacklist of adoptees barred from getting their own birth certificates.

ACTION

Please write to Senator Perry today (address below) and tell her why you do not support S2759. If you represent an organization, explain the significance of your organization as well. The bill was introduced on April 6, 2010 and is being fast tracked so we need your letters now!

TALKING POINTS
  • S2759 is not an equal access bill.
  • SB2759 convolutes civil rights with interpersonal relationships
  • S2759 treats adoptees differently than the not-adopted. Access to the original birth certificate is treated as a favor or privilege by the state for adoptees, not as the unquestioned right for the not-adopted.
  • S2759 creates two classes of adoptees giving some adoptees access to the obc at the expense of other adoptees
  • S2759 creates a special right for “birthparents” to veto access to the obc, and extends that special right to self-appointed surrogates if a parent is deceased or incapacitated.
  • S2759 and H7877 are companion bills; state your opposition to both.
CONTACT

Senator Rhoda E. Perry
Chairwoman, Health & Human Services Committee
Room 212
83 Smith St
RI State House
Providence, RI 02903
Phone: 401-276-5567 and 401-571-7165
Fax: 401-222-4263
sen-perry@rilin.state.ri.us

Also contact HSS committee members:

Sen Leo R. Blais
sen-blais@rilin.state.ri.us
Phone: 401-823-4536

Sen. Charles J.Levesque
sen-levesque@rilin.state.ri.us
Phone:401-683-9194

Sen. Francis T Maher, Jr.
sen-maher@rilin.state.ri.us
Phone: none listed

Sen. Joshua Miller
sen-miller@rilin.state.ri.us
Phone: none listed

Sen Juan Pichardo (HSS Vice-Chair and co-sponsor of bill)
sen-pichardo@rilin.state.ri.us
Phone: 401-461-2389

Sen. James C.Sheehan
sen-sheehan@rilin.state.ri.us
Phone: 401-884-1077

Sen. V. Susan Sosnowski
Sen-sosnowski@rilin.state.ri.us
Phone: 401-783-7704

Quick List:
sen-blais@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-levesque@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-maher@rilin.state.ri.us,
sen-miller@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-perry@rilin.state.ri.us,
sen-pichardo@rilin.state.ri.us, sen-sheehan@rilin.state.ri.us,
sen-sosnowski@rilin.state.ri.us

SUBMIT TESTIMONY IN OPPOSITION TO S2759

Testimony may be submitted in writing two ways:

Email: dcook@rilin.state.ri.us
Fax: 401-222-4263

Be sure to head your testimony with the number of the bill; a brief description (ex: original birth certificates for adoptees) and that your testimony for the opposition.


Both of these Action Alerts can be found in my right hand sidebar for future reference.

ASAC adds an addenda to the description of the racist misogynistic objectifying anti-abortion maternity camp propaganda video that it screened

By way of a brief follow up on my original post,

Alliance for the Study of Adoption and Culture (ASAC) conference screens racist misogynistic objectifying anti-abortion maternity camp propaganda video

ASAC has added a brief addenda to their description of the film, A Man Without Culture Is Like a Zebra Without Stripes: the Adoption Triangle in South Africa” screened at the conference:

[This description, provided by the presenter to ASAC, suggests something very different from the treatment of birthmothers shown in this film. Rather than promoting openness, the agency controls birthmothers’  communications with the adoptive family, and cuts them off after two years. In the film, a social worker  claims that two years is enough time for birthmothers to grieve.  Professionals and birthparents know that this is often not true, and some found her comment appalling and  said so in the discussion period. Focusing on South Africa, and showing the transfer of poor black children to prosperous white families, the film painfully (and ironically) recalls the treatment of black mothers under apartheid.  The film’s website claims that it gives an idea of good practice in post-adoption counseling according to the Hague convention, but the accompanying film showing adoptive parents with their children demonstrates that this agency’s post-adoption counseling does not provide the anti-racist perspective that adoptive parents and children in transracial adoption will need, and thus does not follow the Hague Convention’s requirements of respecting the child’s ethnicity and general best interests. These films received much criticism at the conference. We do not endorse their viewpoint or the practices they show. They gave us a painful education about the limitations in how the Hague Convention has often been interpreted, and serious problems in some intercountry adoption practice.]

In essence ASAC appears to be trying to say the film they got did not line up with the way the film was proposed to them prior to the conference. They then go on to bemoan “the limitations in how the Hague Convention has often been interpreted.”

None of which deals with the core issues of what happened here.

There are various different sets of people each with their own motivations who live adoption or work in relation to adoption.

Some of us are Bastards, or adoptees ourselves who once aware of our status have no choice but to live adoption, we are adoption.

Others are Mothers a number of whom have endured the all too often painful realities of adoption, as let’s face it, time and again, coercion, deception, and a variety of forms of outright child stealing have been an ongoing aspects of adoption practices.

There are adopters, who ‘opt in’ to adoption, and yes obviously have their own perspectives on it.

There is the State and its role in the very structure of adoptions. (As well as legislators, judges, etc some of whom have their own direct participations in adoption.)

And then there are the various interests who occupy that fifth spot on the adoption pentagon: adoption agencies, child marketers, child finders and scouts, recruiters, industry lobbies, adoption marketers (i.e. marketing the very concept of adoption itself, often to both lawmakers and prospective adoptive couples,)  Coercive Pregnancy Indoctrination Centers (aka self described “Crisis Pregnancy Centers,”) maternity camps, juvenile delinquent centers for “unwed teens”, etc.

In all of this, there are some various factions, Bastards fighting for our own human/civil/identity rights, agencies fighting to preserve their financial interests and industry’s very viability, etc to name just two.

If ASAC failed to understand what a juicy target for a resume item an academic adoption conference held at M.I.T.  would hold to those attempting to legitimize, for example their adoption marketing film, then ASAC was nothing short of naive.

Apparently, ASAC was used.

They were told the film would be one thing, highlighting “openness”, for example, yet what they got was a marketing film used in marketing adoption and fulfilling would-be-adoptive couple’s Hague convention required “educational” component. Far from any ephemeral notion of “openness” the film showcased how Abba House and Esther House in South Africa actively controlled, manipulated, and literally read any and all correspondence, stripping it of any identifying information before passing it on, between Mothers and Adoptive Couples now continents away.

As this propaganda film was screened, mind you, to an audience with (Original) family members and adoptees in it, ASAC simply let it roll. When it came to its conclusion, the ASAC representative in the room simply went on ahead with the Q & A, never once acknowledging that something extraordinary had just occurred.

There is the overt racism inherent to the film itself, as well as the racism an adoptee in the film spoke of experiencing which I wrote about eariler:

The film also interviewed several of the adopted kids themselves including a boy brought to a European country, imported from Haiti. He described other kids, particularly from other schools or less familiar with him in day to day life flinging invectives at him, calling his so called colour  “chocolate” and “shit.”

Yet in an attempt at negating such, Ann Somers stood in front of the ASAC audience and flatly denied that racism had been an issue in these adoptions of Black kids taken from South Africa and Haiti and adopted into European Countries with predominantly white populations.

In essence, she stood there and overrode the direct firsthand experiences of racism that the adopted boy in her film spoke of.

Apparently to Somers, the voices of even the adoptees in the film matter not one bit.

The ASAC response at the time was non-existent.

It came down to people in the audience to even begin to question aspects of this film.

And in the end, yes, it came down to me personally, to decry the film as “propaganda” and “vile” in the Q & A session.

As I wrote for the about page on my personal Stormcoming blog, speaking of a completely different, non-adoption related context at the time:

…I’ve never been good at not saying what desperately needs saying when no one else will.

Maybe I’ll write about the aftermath of my comments at ASAC eventually, maybe I won’t. For now I’ll simply say the response to my comments was both surprising and perfectly predictable.

Surprising, in that to my utter shock,  a few people in the audience applauded.

Perfectly predictable, in that after I spoke my POLITICAL analysis of what had just happened, I was accused of being “wounded” and “hurt.” The same old tactics always used to shut down and derail  Bastard political criticism.

Once you’re to that point, there’s no point in hanging around. Attempts at rationally discussing the content of the propaganda film had devolved down to personal attack decrying how “wounded” I personally was.

It’s impossible to discuss the actual content of the film in such a context.

When those who dare reject have their political criticism ignored as nothing more than some aspect of being personally broken, said conversation has ended.

I’ve spent my life working for women’s reproductive autonomy.

I did not expect to be subjected to an anti-abortion/pro-adoption ministry spotlight my first day at the conference.

But when the conference itself lacks an understanding of the landscape their conference and adoption itself  occupies, and of the various interests who would themselves utilize the conference to their own ends, and clearly have no bullshit detectors to even understand what just happened, why should I be surprised?

An addenda after the fact about how ‘gee, some people’s interpretation of the Hague Treaty really wasn’t what we thought it would be’ doesn’t even begin touch on the depths of what occurred in Boston.

No matter how good or strong the rest of the conference, the contaminating presence of such adoptee negating, autonomy denying, industry propaganda, AND the ASAC lack of response in real time is both a corruption of the very space and a violation inflicted upon some of the very people sitting in that audience.

No Mother should be expected to sit silently by while being told after 2 years they move on. No Bastard should be expected to sit silently by while being told racism isn’t a factor in these adoptions and that the adoptee’s own voice, both used and then shoved aside doesn’t matter.

Yet giving the conference more respect than was its due, that was precisely what some of us in that audience did, waited silently until it was over, until the Q &A.

When the ASAC representative in the room was clearly blithely unaware of what had just gone by, I looked around the room and waited for someone else to state what was more than obvious to some of us.

When no one did, I waited my turn at the microphone and stated as plainly as possible what little I could without first sitting down to do the websearches to dig out the full details of what this was (covered in my initial ASAC post.)

I don’t know how to put it more plainly than this,

You cannot ask Bastards be supportive of a space when an adopted child’s own first hand experiences of racism, of bullying and cruelty he was subjected to as a direct result of his adoption experience are invalidated and shoved aside so carelessly by those the conference chose to showcase.

Our voices matter, be they the voices of the Mothers in the film who one after another reported their reasons for adoption were economic, and that in at least one case, she actively wanted to keep her child, but economically was unable, or the voices of an adopted child saying ‘I DO experience racist treatment as a result of this process.’

Sadly, ASAC valued the output of industry over the voices of Mothers and Adoptees.

They had an opportunity, in real time, once it was clear this film was not what had been pitched to them in the submitted proposal to do something about it as it was screened.  Yet Joyce Maguire Pavao, of the Center for Family Connections who chaired the screening for ASAC, apparently saw nothing wrong with what was happening in that room. (Not surprising considering the CfFC is itself steeped in both triad thinking and “attachment issues” (see my earlier ASAC post for my critique of both “the triad” and “attachment issues.”)

The bottom line remains, Bastards and Mothers were objectified by the film, which was nothing more than an anti-abortion adoption ministry related propaganda piece.

Those responsible for the film get to go home to Belgium and tout how their film ran at the ASAC conference at M.I.T. and ASAC’s pathetic addenda tacked on after the fact to the films page, not even the front conference page, (nor have I seen any evidence of anything being broadly mailed out about the addenda beyond to some of us who questioned what took place,)  nor Facebooked, nor utilized in other forms of social media, doesn’t begin to address the concerns some of us have had with what occurred in Boston.

ASAC to the best of my knowledge only mailed their response to those of us who raised our concerns, not to the broader body of conference attendees.

ASAC holds the ultimate responsibility for the fact that this happened.

Whether the film was run sight unseen or not, ASAC still had a responsibility to what was being run as part of their own conference and how this disaster was not handled at the time.

It saddens me deeply, as yes, there were reasons I attended the conference in the first place (though there were also apparently other aspects of the conference that I suppose I’m glad I missed at this point.) There are some people who presented there who are without a doubt, doing the real and important work.

Yet to be told in no uncertain terms on he very first day of the conference that Bastards and Mothers voices were in certain times and spaces, simply not relevant and that this was a conference that welcomed industry propaganda over our voices,  left me with no recourse. My conscience dictated it was past time to go.

Now, here we are after the fact, and Marianne Novy has both contacted me in personal email with the addenda and this morning left it as a comment to my original ASAC piece. While I appreciate her letting me know what ASAC has done, there have been extenuating circumstances on my end.

It’s been one of the strangest weeks of my life this past week, and no I haven’t gotten to writing this post until now. Whether that’s been convenient for ASAC or not I’m afraid has simply not been foremost on my mind.

I find their response misses the point entirely, and is far too little too late, but that’s just my take on it.

Rhode Island’s legislative abomination: access for a lucky few purchased at the price of the human rights of others

For some time now I’ve been following the ongoing disaster in Rhode Island.

This time around, they’ve come up to the edge of passing yet another “access for me, but not for thee” bill, by camouflaging it, falsely labeling it an adoptee rights bill, and co-opting Bastard voice by glossing over how their bill is once again, another deform bill that will leave some untold number of Bastards behind.

Marley has been writing about it on her Daily Bastardette blog, see for example, this from her first piece:

RHODE ISLAND: EXPANDING THE THE VETO

The bill includes a disclosure veto. But just not any disclosure veto. This is a very special veto:

Any birth parent, or parents or adult sibling of a deceased or incompetent birth parent, may file a no release form with the division and the division will thereafter not release a copy of the adoptee’s birth certificate. The division shall post the no release form and filing instructions on the division’s website . the birth parent, or parent or adult sibling of a deceased or permanently disabled birth parents may revoke his or her no release form at an time.

That is, not only can your parent(s) file a disclosure veto and hold your birth certificate hostage, but so can relatives you’ve probably never even heard of. Even the very people who might have forced you into the adoption mill. And…these mystery relatives can speak for the dead, too! What’s to stop strangers, in fact, from filing a veto without even telling Mom or Dad about you or the veto. How will this veto be administered? Is it a passive veto? Or does the state track down mom, dad, grandparents, aunts, uncles to chit-chat about your worthiness quotient?

Do these deformers not realize how dangerous this is?

For years real bastard advocates have been fighting the deformer-created “special rights” disclosure veto doctrine they love more than their own rights–or rather YOUR rights. Now a new generation of deformers–some of whom have actually worked on and helped win clean bills in New Hampshire and Maine and know the sweet smell of success– for some inexplicable reason want to expand that “special right” to collateral relatives. Once that happens, Rhode Island will never reach back into that black hole and pick up is left behinds.

Thursday, she posted a latest update which included this:

RHODE ISLAND H7877: Hen Meet Fox

The Rhode Island House yesterday passed unanimously (and here) H 7877, a bill that curbs the right of adoptees to receive their own original birth certificates.

The bill, framed in deformer NewSpeak as a records access and adoptee rights measure, creates a “do not release” option (a nice name for disclosure veto) for families of origin–in this case not only a parent, but a parent or sibling of a deceased parent– to keep their Family Bastard de-identied and at bay. The Senate’s close companion SB2759 extends the veto to the parent or sibling of a “permanently disabled ” parent (no mention of proof or definition of “permanenty disabled”) . That is, to people who may have pressured the parent to surrender their shameful secret into the secret adoption mill to start with. Hen meet Fox.

Would a Rhode Island legislator tolerate for one moment a law that would predicate release of his or her own own birth certificate on the desire, comfort zone, and permission of his or her parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles? Of course not! And certainly the not-adopted wouldn’t. Why should any self-respecting bastard be expected to roll over for this absurd bill?

The key word is self-respecting.

Deformers scurry all over AdoptionLand like cockroaches swarming after daily pottage. They sell their own birthright and then steal the birthright of everyone else in the name of privilege for some. Benedict Bastards. Class traitors. Cowards. Your “grand strategy” harms us all. Your despicable bills create a permanent underclass of adoptees. No lawmaker will return to fix your fuck up.

I’ve been writing about how such deform bills, cloaked in the language of “adoptee rights” permanently screw the left behinds for a long time now.

Having been on the wrong end of Ohio’s Faustian bargain, I unilaterally reject such bills. There’s no such thing as a “little bit of human rights” purchased at the direct cost of the human rights of other members of the broader class Bastard.

As but one of many examples,  see my comment and 73adoptee’s original post on the New Jersey mess from earlier this year, we are both left behinds:

My comment on 73 adoptee’s “Compromising On Adoptee Access? The Foot You Shoot May Be Your Own”

All of which serves as a brief introduction to the comment I scrawled late this morning and left on Bastardette’s latest Rhode Island entry.

At least one of those who support this damaging legislation came over to tsk tsk and point a finger at Marley for not being supportive of their little charade.

The commenter expected Marley to sit down, shut up, and fall back in line, attempting to “shame” Marley for refusing to pipe down, and instead insisting upon maintaining her support of those left behind.

Thus my (rapidly fired off) reply, in first person voice, speaking AS one of those equality was ‘sacrificed for the good of others’ the last time around:

Kristen, I am one of those whose rights were “sacrificed” in the Ohio deform effort.

My civil/human/identity rights were left behind, painted over with promises that ‘the fight will not end with this, we’ll come back for you later.’

The bottom line is, no legislature who has ever passed one of these abominations of legislation have ever come back to INCREASE access for adopted people.

I’ve written a great deal about bills similar to Rhode Island’s do incredible amounts of damage, damage that echo down through the decades and generations.

Legislators feel they ‘just dealt with that’ and have no interest in revisiting the issue for years, if not decades to come.

When organizations claim to speak for adopted people, yet are willing to trade away a percentage of the Bastards standing next to them in some vain effort to ‘gain some’ at the direct cost to the rights of others, they loose the moral authority to speak for adoptees.

Marley, Bastard Nation, and a number of others of us stand for the rights of all and refuse to use the rights of any portion of the broader “class Bastard” as a political bargaining chip.

We understand, often from firsthand experiences, what horrible legislation like the bill in Rhode Island will do, and we refuse to settle for anything less than the full human and civil rights for ALL adopted people.

You want to talk about what’s “shameful”? The behaviour of those who feel it is their place to speak for others, that they are somehow empowered to trade away the rights of some other subset of “expendable” adoptees. It’s a co-optation of our voices.

They act if it doesn’t matter so long as it’s ‘only a few’ who end up vetoed, or black holed by arbitrary dates systems, or otherwise barred.

Further, if you think those who just got theirs will continue to labor on, working to ensure full access to everyone, think again. Most adopted people have no comprehension of the broader class Bastard, they get theirs and go home, leaving those left behind to slog on by themselves, fucked over by both state and Benedict bastards.

There are really two primary models of legislation being built upon at the moment: full restoration of rights, such as OR, AL, NH, ME, and fucked up partial access for a lucky few at the direct expense of others bills like TN, OH, MA, etc.

Those in RI had a choice, they could fight for full human rights restoration, or they could settle for a half-assed broken bill that will segregate a portion of Bastards away and bar them access, all accompanied with the usual excuses of ‘we’ll get to your rights later… .’

Tragically, many in RI have chosen the latter path, creating a bill that not merely settles for the broken veto system, but actually EXPANDS it, setting a new precedent, and giving new veto powers out to extended family members.

This will have the effect of further screwing Bastards with larger biological families as the larger the extended biological family, the greater the likelihood that there will be at least one member of the family who wants to use their new veto powers.

RI’s bill, is far from some notion of a neutral bill, it actually builds a whole new tool to bar access to the subclass of Bastards you’re so willing to write off.

So, are some of us disgusted and infuriated that certain people are so willing to support this atrocity? Of course we are!

We’re the ones left behind by the very people claiming to speak on our behalf.

Apparently you don’t understand why ‘ a little bit of human rights for a lucky few at the direct cost to others’ is a problem to those of us on the wrong side of those arbitrarily created lines you support.

Do I oppose the bill?

Yes, with every fiber of my being.

Am I willing to speak out on such and say that when organizations begin to view some adoptees’ rights as expendable they no longer speak for adopteees?

You better believe it.

Deform bills do lasting damage.

Shame on you, for in essence supporting a bill that says not all Bastards’ rights matter. (At least not right now, but don’t worry, we’ll get there, really we will…)

There’s no self respect in that.

There’s no fundamental understanding that all Bastard rights matter.

This bill reduces whatever access some will have (at the direct expense of others) to a mere state granted privilege, one it can extend to adopted people, or withdraw at whim.

The bill’s a sham, and it deserves nothing other than contempt.

Let’s just say that somewhere between their support for this corruption of genuine Bastard rights and their woundee fixation, (something I’ve previously addressed politically in my post, On so called ‘the primal wound’: “personal problems” vs. political solutions) there’s ample reason why The Rhode Island Adoption Coalition for Equality or T.R.A.C.E., is NOT listed in my “Work for adoptee rights- State by State” links and blogroll on the right-hand side of this blog.

When I write about Benedict bastards, this year, T.R.A.C.E. most certainly makes my list.

May 10, 2010

Today has been a very significant day.

Mother’s Day 2010: Benedict bastards and the industry unleashed

Another year gone by.

Regular readers already know why Mother’s Day has a lot of added adoption layers for me personally, but for those unfamiliar with my writings, the condensed version is I’m an adult adoptee black-holed by the Ohio sealed records system, who just happened to be born (apparently, anyway) one Mother’s Day in the late 1960’s. Thus Mother’s Day many years falls upon the date my amended birth certificate claims is my birthday.

I’m a Mother’s Day Bastard.

Correspondingly, somewhere out there, (if she’s even still alive,) is a Mother who gave birth on Mother’s Day to a daughter who eventually disappeared into a sealed records adoption.

I’ve already written some preliminary thoughts about all this in years past:

2008

“Birthmother’s Day” and a Day without Adoption

Mothers’ Day and my day

2009

Weekend round up- “Birthmother’s Day”, and A Day without Adoption, & Mother’s Day and My Day

Now here we are in 2010. A third Mother’s Day blogging this sorry state of affairs.

This year, far from having good news to report about perhaps more states restoring original birth certificate access to all their adopted citizens, we’ve seen more than a fifth of the country vomiting forth horrendous bill after horrendous bill, some of which offer up a Faustian bargain of access for some at the direct expense of the rights of others.

This is what happens when legislators think they know just enough about “adoptee rights” to really fuck things up.

This is also what happens when adoptees themselves are willing to settle for less than full rights restored to all.

When individual adoptees are willing to set aside any concept of class Bastard (see point 1 on the link) and instead go rogue, beginning to bargain for table scrap “privileges” granted by the state to a lucky few by trading away the human rights of the Bastard standing next to them.

Bastard Nationals have long had a name for those who behave thusly, Benedict bastards (note Marley’s 2004 use of the term here, as but one example.)

The minute a Benedict bastard betrays the full human rights of the Bastard standing next to them they lose any claim to speak for class Bastard. (As Illinois State Representative Sara Feigenholtz is learning the hard way, at the moment.)

All of this is little more than evidence of what happens when some nebulous concept of “adoptee rights” is demanded without laying the educational groundwork in place beforehand.

Legislators need to understand what a genuine restored access bill is and isn’t.

That takes both people on the ground educating AND legislators willing to set aside their abortion mythos fears for time being and actually being willing to listen.

It means knowing history and how this current state of affairs came to be, knowing the courts findings, and understanding the complex webs of interests that have their own reasons they protect the existing sealed records systems. It means knowing both how sealed records legislation came to sweep the country in the first place AND the intricacies, personalities, and details of how individual states came to support sealed records locally.

But that takes work, and research, and is never so cut and dry as pure sloganeering or being willing to settle for table scraps.

Nope, this past year, has been a disaster for some states. Many stand on the brink of passing yet more black holing, ‘access for me, but not for thee’ legislation.

Saddest of all, in a number of these cases, it has been Benedict bastards willing to settle for so very little. While search and reunion oriented groups have been busy gutting Bastard human rights, they’ve pretty much freed up the industry to go after its long term proactive goals of restructuring American adoption. From the tax credits built into the health care reform bill to the massive child grab in Haiti, the industry has had its hands untied.

And Bastards, those of us who do care about class Bastard? We’ve been forced to defend on all fronts, both federal and now state by state against the very Benedict bastards so willing to throw our human rights away.

There have been times in this blogging adventure that I have felt glimmers of optimism.

But this period between Mother’s Day 2009 and 2010 has made it abundantly clear just how little self respect and fight some adoptees have left in them.

I’ve never considered myself an optimist, but clearly the exhaustion of the fight and the passing of so many years has left some willing to settle for so very, very little. The more Bastards have to fend off the deform efforts of Benedict bastards is the less time, energy, and resources we have left to fight what to many of us are some of the very core battle, the outright child selling, the lies and secrets that have always protected such practices, from Georgia Tann to today in China, and the all to human toll of what this does to parents and women.

There is more than enough genuine work to be done without having to fight junk legislation in multiple states at a time.

So another year gone by.

Right this moment, by many measures, we are farther away from the goals than we were last year at this time.

It’s a sobering assessment.

Julia Ward HoweAnna Jarvis

Julia Ward Howe, Anna Jarvis

But then Anna Jarvis ultimately lost her battle with the florists, and Julia Ward Howe ended up with a “Mother’s Day” more about Hallmark cards than world peace.

I can only hope Bastards can make our work more enduring.

Alliance for the Study of Adoption and Culture (ASAC) conference screens racist misogynistic objectifying anti-abortion maternity camp propaganda video

I first began blogging about adoption in late October 2007 in the aftermath of having attended the “Adoption: Ethics and Accountability” conference (Ethica and and the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute were some of the primary sponsors.)

That conference was a case study in both the lack of ethics and buzzed worded/soundbyted  “accountability” (accountable to whom exactly?) that pervades the landscape of adoption-land.

Now two and a half years later, I sit at my keyboard having left the Alliance for the Study of Adoption and Culture’s (ASAC) Conference in Boston, entitled “Adoption: Secret Histories, Public Policies” after attending merely a single afternoon’s sessions.

My partner and I left  but not without my first expressing at least the bedrock of why it was we left.

In a word, disgust.

Those of you who have already seen my twitter saw what shards were going to fit into 140 characters in real time.

It is now well over 24 hours after the fact, and there are hundreds of miles between myself and Boston. Hundreds of miles and plenty of hours in which to give the entire situation a good hard think.

No doubt I will eventually write more, perhaps much more about what I saw at the ASAC conference and the implications thereof, but for the moment, I’m going to try to keep this as narrowly contained as possible while still saying what needs to be said.

Thursday was what amounted to ‘film day’ at this year’s conference, and while certainly hundreds of pages of analysis could be written about what we saw earlier on in the day, I’m going to draw reader’s attention to one of the afternoon sessions:

4:15-5:30      Chair: Joyce Maguire Pavao, Center for Family Connections, Cambridge, MA

Screening: A Man Without Culture Is Like a Zebra Without Stripes  (Bartos Theatre)

Filmmaker: Ann Somers, Preparation Center for International Adoption, Belgium

The video central to the presentation has apparently been used to fulfill a portion of the Hague Inter-country Adoption Treaty mandated “educational requirements” for would-be-adoptive couples, at least that was how it was introduced.

The full title of the video is “A Man Without Culture Is Like a Zebra Without Stripes: the Adoption Triangle in South Africa.” I will get to the “triangle” language in another post, but for now, anyone who was there at the time, or has read what I’ve written repeatedly about the non-existent “triad” has a pretty good idea how I feel about such.

It was described in the conference Abstracts and Bios thusly:

Ann Somers, “A Man Without Culture Is Like a Zebra Without Stripes: the Adoption Triangle in South Africa”

This film made in 2002, is part of a trilogy about openness, grief, and living with differences in adoption. For “Man without culture,” we interviewed birth mothers in South Africa and followed the process of handing over a child from the birthmother to the adoptive parents. It lasts an hour and the film on the birth mothers and the handings over each take about 20 minutes. The films were made by the preparation Centre for International Adoption for International Adoption (Ghent, Belgium) in cooperation with the University of Ghent and the International Adoption Center in London. It has subtitles in English and is often shown at adoption meetings in the UK.

While Universiteit Ghent is of course, a quick and easy google, and VCOK the distributors of the film are findable, other aspects of these “credentials” are shall we say, more elusive.

Jan Peeters is listed as the film’s author on this library card listing at the Royal Library of Belgium. The listing also mentions “Ghent: Training Centre for the Guidance of the Young Child,”  more accurately translated as “the Resource and Research Center for Early Childhood Care and Education”  or VBJK as the publisher.

(This may take a bit of a scorecard to help keep straight, all I’m making note of here is that the film’s producer and the president of the organization is Jan Peeters.)

VBJK is on the links page of VCOK and Ann Somers is one of the people who is in the adoption team at VCOK; they run a “training center” and distribute materials.

VCOK’s logo is on the video and is distributing the video. At the conference the video segments were played off a DVD with VCOK’s logo on it.

The Alliance for the Study of Adoption and Culture had a responsibility to at minimum, do at least a Google search or two on the credentials prior to accepting the film submission. Even working with the Dutch translations, some of these organizations appear to have no net presence what-so-ever.

More to the point though, this was allegedly a conference pertaining to the STUDY of “adoption and culture.”

Submissions should have presented a context of interpretation, some form of analysis, or actual study, rather than merely running what ultimately amounted to nothing short of various segments of an unexamined and completely unanalyzed outright commercial for inter-country adoptions, a propaganda film.

Ann Somers (on staff with VCOK) and and another woman from Belgium (regrettably, I did not catch her name) accompanied the video to the ASAC conference. Somers introduced several of the different segments.

The first two segments shown to the conference centered around describing the program at ABBA House in South Africa, an explicitly christian maternity camp (as in “re-education camp“, though in these cases, usually without the state sentencing overtones) operation. Its tagline is nauseatingly:

“Changing the destinies of children”

ABBA house/ABBA Adoptions and House Esther, Baby Care (prior to adoptions) and “mother care shelter house” are all but portions of the broader corporate structure of “South Africa Cares for Life” as you can see on page 3 of  South Africa Cares for Life annual Director’s Report from 2006.

The flow chart makes it perfectly clear, ABBA house is a FUNCTION OF South Africa Cares for Life.

Following the links on the page you will eventually come to their page on Baby Nurseries (i.e. product warehousing prior to adoptions) and Mother Homes where pregnant women will be “coached” according to the video.

SA Cares for Life was founded in an attempt to prevent abortions:

SA Cares for Life began in 1996 as Riekie van der Berg sought a means to give women an alternative to abortion. God has since expanded the services of SA Cares to include a network of pregnancy care centers, nurseries, mother homes, and a child sponsorship program.

We are unified by a shared vision of our commitment to offer hope, to give purpose, to change the destiny of birthmothers, families, and children. We give glory to God who has started this ministry…

Or as this puff piece profile clarifies:

In September 1993, Riekie was given this mandate from God: “do something now against abortion, do what I would have done”.

There’s plenty of coded evangelical language in all that, as just one example, terms such as “offer hope” in that subculture relates more to converting these women to christianity than anything concretely having to do with any emotion or outcomes relating to the pregnancy.

So called “post abortion counseling,” or more accurately re-framing of a woman’s abortion experience into something useful to them politically and movement-wise, is a key facet of SA “cares” work.

From their “Neobirth” (or “new birth” assumedly in both the physical and religious senses) Coercive Pregnancy Indoctrination Centers (CPICS) through to Maternity camps, on through to ABBA (“Daddy” or “Father” as in God, the) adoptions it’s practically, one stop shopping.

Abba Adoptions originated from the Social Work Private Practice of Riekie van der Berg, registered in 1975. Abba Adoptions became the registered adoption division of the Apostolic Faith Mission Executive Welfare Council in 1996. The Abba Adoption team currently consists of a team of 15 registered social workers. Abba Adoptions stands separate from the charity projects of SA Cares for Life but networks closely together for the statutory services needed to serve the best interest of children in our care.

According to the January ’09 newsletter, they have also gotten into the baby dump box or “Safe Haven” racket, whereby kids are left anonymously, decimating any hope of ever re-connecting the kids processed through such with their authentic identities.

Not surprisingly, dump boxes aside, the video went into some detail about the tactic of so called “openness” that we in the audience later on through the presentation came to understand that even in identified relinquishment situations was nothing more than an ABBA house mediated program whereby letters and photographs could be exchanged from the adopters to the agency and from Mothers to the agency. The intermediary reads all correspondence and offers “counseling” if the Mother ‘sounded like she needed it,’ then all identifying address information was stripped off by the intermediary prior to the exchange of information.

At the end of the two years, if not much sooner, contact is concluded, and Mothers are to ‘get on with their lives’ (particularly as a big part of the ABBA house “coaching” has to do with opening one’s heart to loving again, after losing a child to adoption.)

Anyone who has spent sixty seconds with many Mothers who lost children to adoption hears that two year figure and wants to laugh out loud. It treats women as if they are inhuman, as if they would just ‘forget’ their children. Any Mother will tell you, they may feel many different things, but they never forget.

There were short interviews with several pregnant women in the program, the majority of which were black (as are most of the women SA Cares for Life processes, see the director’s report above) . Most reported a simple financial inability to keep the child, at least one hoped to continue on with her own education.

At least one white woman in the program reiterated several times her desire to keep her child, yet the lack of money stood in her way.

While the film fails to document her particular outcome clearly, she is in the soon to have the resultant kid placed up for adoption queue at the time the film was shot.

No financial assistance to enable her to keep her child appeared forthcoming, nor was the very subject ever broached.

That’s not what ABBA house and ABBA adoptions are there for.

One of the employees of ABBA house mentioned in passing how they prefer to get a hold of the pregnant women at roughly the six month mark, bemoaning how they occasionally only hear from some women right as they’re going into labor. (Apparently that provided an insufficient amount of time to “coach” them prior to the adoption. No doubt it’s hard to frame a woman’s expectations and experiences on the way to the labour ward.)

The second portion of the video showed how ABBA house handles an actual hand off of the kid from the Mother to the adopters.

The ASAC audience was treated to watching a young black woman hand off her child to a white couple explaining ‘he’s your child now’ right on cue. They assure her there will always be some of her still in there, but they most certainly take the child.

The young Mother spent another portion of the meeting sitting quietly at times looking down until coached by the employee to tell the adopters what she wanted them to do for (her) child.

As if on cue all the trite adoption cliches of “better life” complete with “education” tumbled out one after another. These are all too familiar to those of us who have heard that refrain echo down through the ages from women losing their children in maternity camps on through to parents in Haiti in the wake of the earthquake being conned out of their kids by Laura Silsby and the Baptist Missionaries (although in Haiti of course, no mention of thereafter sending the kids off into adoptions was made to the parents.)

The adopters took the baby, but left the Mother with a picture book of her son’s soon to be “home” country. They also left her with some photographs they had taken on an earlier visit they had had with her child. The entire hand off was orchestrated by the employee.

Despite the fact that ABBA house was the very subject matter of these early portions of the film, complete with interviews with its young white employees the constant drumbeat of “triangle” was used to hide those with the most power and central to the film, a point we’ll have to come back to in a later post.

The third portion was introduced as ‘let’s move on to the “Happy part!”

Happy” perhaps, only if such material is typically only shown to would-be-adoptive couples, not so much for some sitting in the audience at the ASAC.

Throughout the third segment, adoptive couples and their internationally obtained children were profiled.

Most of the time the adopters are speaking, the kids are reduced to mere props, a black child having her hair braided by her white adoptive mother while the mother speaks to issues that could just as well, if not better be addressed by the adoptee herself. To say the girl did not look happy would be an understatement.

But then, adoptees are rarely happy when they are reduced to mere inanimate set design.

Another, obviously well-to-do white couple laughs for the camera about arriving at one of the many ‘adoption or baby hotels‘ in their child’s country of origin only to have a driver stop by not long after they arrive with a child in arms and a bag with little more than a bottle and some baby goods, dropping the kid off and leaving them to their ‘parenting.’

It’s nothing short of dropping off the merchandise. No notion of social worker or even agency hack, just a driver with babe in arms.

For most sane people, this would raise deep concerns, yet for this couple, it was all just part of that strange child-by-airplane experience.

In yet another segment, we see a sister to adopted kids gushing about her new (black) siblings’ hair, enjoying touching it, etc.

This has been an important point of contention of personal ownership, consent, and boundaries for many black people, let alone the additional layers or significance such can take on for adoptees.

Rather than trying to explain such in my own voice, I’d prefer to let a black adoptee speak to such herself through my post. Quoting a few recent comments off Lisa Marie’s twitter (because they’re too important  to merely scroll down off the page without noting, particularly here, and particularly in that she performed “Ungrateful Daughter” at the conference later on:

hey white folks: Reminder from me &to quote @wkamaubell answer to the question: Can I touch your hair? NO. the answer is NO. its always NO. 1:32 AM Apr 26th via web

so guess what that means when you just reach out and grab it at the club in your drunken stupor. it means i may elbow you in the forehead. 1:32 AM Apr 26th via web

oops. sorry. 1:32 AM Apr 26th via web

white people. STOP reaching out to touch black people’s hair w/o permission. actually DONT even ASK. We don’t want you in there. stop it. 1:33 AM Apr 26th via web

Im so OVER having drunken white men and women who think my hair is cool just grab me by my hair as they are ‘complimenting’ me. 1:35 AM Apr 26th via web

o also quote @wkamaubell : unless you are trying to buy me, you have no reason to know what my hair feels like. none. 1:36 AM Apr 26th via web

@londyjamel @writer_nw @SoloAnn ask folks with dreadlocs as well. when I had locs it was just as crazy. part of why I cut them. 1:40 AM Apr 26th via web in reply to londyjamel

the one time I have actually checked someone about touching my hair without permission they were totally offended. like it was no big deal. 1:42 AM Apr 26th via web

people just reach out AS they are asking. but last night it wasn’t even an ask, it was an outright handful grab… & not in a good way. 1:44 AM Apr 26th via web

a young white woman, dancing near me on the dance floor. sigh. I just stopped dancing, looked at her dead in the face and walked away. lol. 1:45 AM Apr 26th via web

RT @martinejoelle Last year I was in a show called Our Hair, Our Stories. We had a whole scene/movement 4 “Stop! You can’t touch my hair!” 1:49 AM Apr 26th via web

She has also centered her work “Ungrateful Daughter” around another example of both the “hair” theme and nonconsent as it relates to both a black adoptee’s personal power and in this particular circumstance, powerlessness:

One of the most evocative scenes in Rollins’ new autobiographical play, Ungrateful Daughter: One Girl’s Story of Being Adopted into a White Family … That Aren’t Celebrities, centers on hair drama. In the scene, Rollins is six years old, sitting on a kitchen stool and wincing. Rollins’ mother is tackling her hair with a comb. (It’s a solo show, so Rollins plays both parts.)When the comb doesn’t work, mom reaches for new ammo. First she applies a seemingly noxious amount of Johnson & Johnson’s No More Tangles. Then she gets frustrated, grabs a pair of shears, and starts snipping. “She cut off my hair,” said Rollins. “It was super-short. I remember it was an impulse decision, it was done under anger. I remember being completely horrified, hating my short hair, hating myself. Not wanting to go to school. Feeling ugly.”

Hair stood in as a metaphor for something much larger. Rollins remembers her mother describing her hair as “messy, wild, and out of control” — an exotic presence that had to be tamed or molded in place. Put in academic terms, it was “the Other.” So, too, was Rollins.

I’ve had the unfortunate experience of having no less than the head of Operation Save America (formerly Operation Rescue) reach out and touch my hair without consent at a conference. (My skin tends towards the paler than pale, and my hair towards the mousy blonde-esque.) At the time, I was too stunned to react. These days, inaction isn’t something anyone had better be counting on.

For women, particularly small women, or for children, violations like this are simply part of how others feel entitled to us.

The film also interviewed several of the adopted kids themselves including a boy brought to a European country, imported from Haiti. He described other kids, particularly from other schools or less familiar with him in day to day life flinging invectives at him, calling his so called colour  “chocolate” and “shit.”

How this could ever be considered the “happy part” was well beyond me at that point, but what came thereafter was even more stunning.

Once the film came to an end, Somers took the podium and flatly stated that racism hasn’t been a problem.

These black kids, imported to European countries surrounded by white kids, who in turn call the boy “shit” apparently that doesn’t count as “racism” in Somer’s book.

Racism hasn’t been a problem. (Or very similar, I’m having to go by memory.)

That mainly what she heard from adopters were concerns about “attachment issues” but not racism.

Maybe she should should watch her own damn film.

Or at least, watch it through eyes and perspective other than that of the would-be-adopters, the primary audience for this film.

Beyond the ‘mere’ showing of the film itself, abomination though it undoubtedly was, some of the comments surrounding the piece built a context even worse than had the film been left to stand alone.

As for “attachment issues,” also a core subject of the third portion of the video shown at the conference?

Use of such terminology can also have (quite literally) grave implications for adopted people.

What may begin as merely an adoptive parent frustrated by their adopted child’s lack of “bonding” with them can rapidly escalate into the realm of quack attachment related junk “therapies.” (See here for a deconstruction of “Reactive Attachment Disorders”  or RAD which are recognized in the DSM IV and the lay quackery uses of the nebulous pseudo-diagnosis of “attachment disorders” or “attachment therapies” AT. The film, of course, relied upon the latter.)

Adoptive parents demanding adoptees stop clinging to their previous lives, (including memories of other family members, friends, or even siblings, particularly for kids who are older when adopted)  all too often seek out ‘attachment specialists’ in desperate bids to become ‘the only mother!’

This often has far more to do with the self image and self esteem of the adoptive parents than anything having to do with the kids themselves.

Yet an industry has grown up around the ‘fixing’ of “ungrateful” or non-compliant children, particularly adoptees. At times the “attachment industry” is indistinguishable from the adoption industry, as many ‘therapists’ and ‘experts’ are themselves adopters, and market their ‘techniques’ at adoption conferences.

As “Wayward RADish” has been documenting for quite some time now on his “a search for survivors” blog, this long slippery slope can lead kids into situations indistinguishable from outright torture.

These psuedo-therapies have been particularly aimed at adoptees and heavily embraced by the adoption industry, both here in America and abroad.

Tragically, various forms of these ordeal sessions have occasionally made national headlines when kids have been harmed by “holding therapies” or with holding things such as food, crushed to death due to what have been  termed forms of “compression therapy” while others have choked to death on their own vomit while being smothered under blankets going through “rebirthing” junk therapies allegedly to “rebirth” them through their adoptive mothers.

The body count continues to climb.

See Wayward RADish’s “Memorium” to read the horrific stories of some of these kids and about the “attachment” therapies that led to their deaths.

Use of such terminology is not neutral.

“Attachment therapy” to Adoptees is similar to how Queers look at quack “ex-gay” therapies. (Also see Attachment/Holding Therapy Inspired “Gay to Straight” Movement Leader to understand important overlaps.)

Both fundamentally demand the subject cease being themselves.

One last key point I did not have the opportunity to make in the Q&A session after the video (which I will address in a separate post, as reaction to the propaganda deserves a post all its own) from House Esther’s function as a  staging area for “destitute pregnant” women, to the all too comfortable surroundings of the European homes the children were eventually exported to, it was obvious, yet rendered invisible to any analysis within the film itself that these adoptions, like so very many, are a function of access to wealth, and complete lack thereof.

The flow of children only goes one direction.

Optimistically perhaps, arriving at the conference, I had printed up some postcards pointing to both my BLC blog and twitter, to pass along to people, almost as a form of business card. On the back, I pulled what I have always considered very core to this blogging I do, from my “about” page:

Baby Love Child, the blog, also has roots in exploring adoption and how it is deeply entwined with many social factors, particularly poverty. Many real life “love children” who are later adopted, are not ‘given up’ for lack of love, but for lack of resources. Many of those mislabeled “orphans” are in fact made available to the adoption process as a byproduct of grinding poverty, both domestic and global.

In the few hours I was at the conference, I ultimately had no interest in passing out a single one.

I’m getting well ahead of myself, but when I went to the microphone to comment before it became clear that leaving the conference was the only option, I suppose all I had to say to these women who brought the film came down to two things,

  • if they cannot recognize the racism the boy in the video himself articulated
  • and if they cannot recognize that a central unstated theme to their film is that in these cases loss of children was a by-product of lack of access to resources, to money

then they, probably like so many who see that video, failed to empathize, and see what was just beneath their very noses.

Rather than making films about the mundane and daily process of strip mining pregnant women for their children, and the perfectly everyday machine like precision by which maternity camps do so, perhaps their time and efforts would have been better directed at alleviating the poverty and child exports that led to the film’s subject mater in the first place. But then when women have access to resources, they don’t find themselves in maternity camps.

And then what would aspiring filmmakers do?

Or perhaps more realistically, what would the global demand for a market in children do?

After all, as Florida wants to remind each and every woman seeking abortion, the line for a kid to adopt goes around the block, and you as a woman, happen to contain something many would gladly do whatever it takes to get.

Finally, there is the matter of of how this audience was not their typical audience.

Even a quick glance over the rest of the conference program makes it clear, there were Mothers, at least some of whom may themselves have had direct experiences with maternity camps here in the states, adoptees (the product of the process,) and others from a variety of perspectives in the conference audience.

For me, core to the very question of how to treat this propaganda piece is a simple question:

Should Mothers with direct personal experience of the Magdalene Laundries (or similar containment facilities for women and children) or their one time children, some of whom may well have been direct products of such experiences,  be expected to sit quietly and unquestioningly through a propaganda film about how marvelous the Magdalene Laundries were, and how supposedly effective they were at “reforming women?”

Maternity camps, both historical and current, both domestic and international have often been places ranging from dormitories with a pool and mandatory chapel sessions on through to gross psychological manipulation and outright physical abuse.

While the idea of exhuming over a hundred women’s bodies may seem a rather extreme example to use for purposes of discussion here, the bottom line remains, maternity camps are a world unto themselves even in this day and age. Only those who have been on the direct receiving end of  living through them are the real experts.

Yet as they are women, their experiences are all too often dismissed. They are places with little to no external oversight or regulation in many countries. For the women contained within, their experiences can range from it being something they wanted and did what they needed it to on through to shadowy worlds of hidden abuse, psychological, physical, and even sexual.

In light of such, what then is a ‘reasonable’ response to a glowing ‘educational’ film about the efficiency and marvelousness of this South African maternity camp?

I suppose we’ll get to that in what might be considered sort of a part II, but for those of you who were there who applauded your disgust against this abomination thank you. That support was beyond unexpected.

And for those sitting happily by,  in blithe acceptance of it, all I ask is that you get a little historical, linguistic, and political context for what you just saw and spend some time listening to those who have survived such experiences.

One of the many genuine ironies of this piece of shit appearing on the program, not merely that it did, but when it did was that Ann Fessler’s film “A Girl Like Her” was the next film on the schedule later on in the evening. The next morning was the time dedicated to Mothers speaking of their experiences (although from what I understand, the only Mothers on the program for those sessions were all white, D’oh!)

For those who were not present words genuinely fail me.

There’s a reason I am not in Boston tonight, despite the fact that I really wanted to meet some of the people in attendance and see some of the presentations. Lisa Marie’s “Ungrateful Daughter” most certainly near the top of that list.

As for ASAC, specifically those responsible for the conference?

They failed on every level.

No matter what came after, the presence of this, welcomed as it was, and still uncommented upon publicly by those responsible invalidates the very core of what ASAC may have tried to accomplish here.

Allowing such a basic negation of the experiences of Mothers and adoptees to remain uncommented upon (much less anything done about) even at this late date, says volumes.

Mothers in particular have been conditioned to endure such in silence and be grateful for any venue that grants them any time behind the microphone.

How the hell ASAC EVER thought it would be ok to run a video like this at a conference where they wanted adoptees’ and parents’ participation is beyond me.

It fundamentally undermines any notion of this being a space wherein Mothers and Fathers, Adoptees and Bastards experiences are anything other than some form of “fair and balanced” weight on the opposite side of a scale.

You can put a pile of dung on one side and a bar of gold on the other, but the two remain unequal in anything other than the weight, or in this case ‘volume and attention’ given to each.

There are those in the adoption pentagon with access to power and  resources and those more often than not without.

Bringing in a film that both features the industry and then pretends it doesn’t exist, hiding it away under false propagandistic nuggets like “triangle” hides reality in plain sight and then demands Bastards and Parents accept this false model of our own experiences.

It guts any notion of a conference like this being a place wherein our experiences are valid.

No matter how many “Birth” Mothers or Bastards you put on the program, maneuvers like this pile new bricks up top to make up a podium for us even as you simultaneously remove bricks from the bottom.

Whether or not conference organizers had any idea what they were getting themselves into by running this, not only does that speak of a lack of due diligence, it also speaks to the failure of that last line of defense: realizing how wildly inappropriate this was once the film was rolling and putting and end to it quickly, coupled with sincere apologies.

I’ve been to Adoption industry conferences held by agency lobbies, I’ve been to anti-abortion/pro-adoption zero-sum game conferences held by compulsory pregnancy advocates, I’ve been to Queer conferences trying to disentangle the complicated web of Queer legal statuses and reproduction or lack thereof, I’ve been to Bastards’ rights conferences, I’ve sat through abortion supportive spaces attempts at wrangling with the implications of adoption, and I’ve been to (cough) adoption reform (cough) conferences.

I’ve seen adoption industry films very similar to this many times.

No matter what the interests of those that produced this particular propaganda film,  this was nothing special, and ultimately indistinguishable from industry produced materials.

Marketing the demand for more adoptions, right down to the adoptive couple who are interviewed about going to fertility clinics and how they were such “sad places with lots of crying” to how they eventually ended up in group of prospective adoptive couples all of them already in process, and how it’s all so happy and they’re getting kids within a year and a half or so, is core to the film.

As it is geared towards would-be-adopters fulfilling their Hague trainings, the film was little more than an ‘ and this is how it works’ piece.

Whereas their usual market are those who merely want the end product, some us sitting in the room either were product or had been processed.

It was the venue, the introduction and the framing, the lack of action by those ultimately responsible on the conference level, the audience reaction and lack thereof, particularly those who saw nothing wrong with it, that sets this instance apart, and led me to add,

…for now I’m headed home. Done accommodating industry crap in spaces I support.


postscript

Sadly, I suppose I may have to write a part II if only to explain my own intentions, and what happened once the presentation ended for those who were not at the conference. It may be some time before I get there though.

Illinois HB5428 and Rep. Sara Feigenholtz’s (office’s?) contemptuous use of the term “ungrateful bastards”

Well, I fully intended to be working on a post about the latest developments in Haiti tonight, but instead, I’m going to add a post about this stunner from Illinois Representative Sara Feigenholtz (or someone tasked with answering her emails.)

Representative Feigenholtz is herself an adoptee, and sadly, the primary sponsor of HB 5428. (A classic example of an adoptee working in direct opposition to the broader interests of what I loosely term class Bastard, see point 1 here.)

So, a tragedy in three acts:

ACT I

By way of backgrounder to this piece go see Bastardette’s blog post from earlier today:

SARA SPEAKS: SARA FEIGENHOLTZ TELLS US WHAT SHE REALLY THINKS OF US

Lori Jeske, (who lives in Washington State,) contacted Representative Feigenholtz and got quite the illiterate and nasty earful back.

Whether such was written by the Representative herself or merely a staff member or office support personnel tasked with answering the email, the bottom line is the buc stops with Representative Feigenholtz herself. She is the one ultimately responsible for responses going out through her publicly published State Representative email account.

To me, at least it matters little that Ms. Jeske was not an Illinois resident, (I have no way of knowing) whether she is an Illinois born adoptee living out of state, or merely another adoptee who cares about adoptee rights.

No one deserves such wretched abuse at the keyboard of any State Representative’s office.

No one who takes the time to contact a state representative, even a representative in another state deserves to be called

delusional

or to be spoken to like this:

Would you consider giving Representative Feigenholtz the key to your (delusional) Eutopian world where all ungrateful bastards think it’s easy to pass a bill that makes everyone happy AND CAN ACTUALLY PASS ? Pass a law? what a concept !!

this is nothing short of contempt for the efforts of those who work to pass a genuine adoptee rights bill, one that restores records access to ALL adoptees in Illinois.

Rather than showing so much as a glimmer of understanding that Ms. Jeske already has made a point of being involved in the legislative process and is merely advocating support for another bill, one that would not leave a significant portion of adopted people behind, (their rights shredded by HB 5428) instead, her interest in Representative Feigenholtz’s bill was met with sarcasm, hostility, and outright anger.

Whoever answered her email resorted to labeling those of us who want human rights restored to all, as living in a

(delusional) Eutopian world

(That would be “Utopian” for those of us who either know how to spell or know how to use spellcheck)

and

ungrateful bastards

Well now, this is an awfully interesting turn of phrase coming from the office of an adopted person herself!

“Ungrateful”?

“Ungrateful” to whom?

To representative Feigenholtz for working for a bill that will gut the human and civil rights of any adoptee born after Jan. 1, 1946?

Why on earth would any genuine adoptee rights advocate who supports the full restoration of adopted people’s right to their state held original birth certificates be grateful to the State Representative who pushed the bill that will force a multitude of adopted people into an arcane system of  confidential intermediaries, vetoes, criminalization of possession of certain forms of information that pertain to their own lives, etc?

Adopted people are very used to having the insult “ungrateful bastard!” hurled at them by people who are themselves, not adopted.

Hearing such from another adopted person (‘s office?) let alone a State Representative, is rather remarkable.

All notions of “civil discourse” devolved down into name calling and questioning the mental state of those who dare so much as question, let alone disagree.

It is conduct unbecoming a State Representative.

I don’t care who you are, this kind of bile is not a reasonable nor rational response to anyone who has taken the time to contact a government official.

Not being from Illinois, I have no idea whether or not Members of the Illinois General Assembly have some form of a code of conduct or not, but more than an apology, and more than a firing of a staffer (if that’s who wrote this response) seems in order here.

People bemoan others lack of involvement in civic life and the political process?

This is pretty much example “A” of why so many people have simply given up.

When incivility is no longer some nebulous free floating concept surrounding politics, and instead becomes personally directed at an individual, from a State Representative’s email account to a person who dared make their political stance known, the incivility is visceral.

Ms. Jeske moved beyond apathy and what she has to show for her trouble is nothing short of a lashing out, or emotional outburst from behind a keyboard.

While Representative Feigenholtz may not be happy that there are other adoptees who oppose her strategy, she had no reasonable expectation that we would sit quietly by while her bill did incredible damage to the rights of any so many Illinois adoptees, setting precedents that could well go on to damage the rights of adopted people in other states.

I added this comment to Bastardette’s post tonight, it sums up my personal disgust:

Very sad to see.

We may disagree completely at times, but (speaking for myself at least,) my correspondence with the legislators has certainly been courteous and respectful.

It’s shameful to see a legislator, (or perhaps her office,) treat what appears to be one of the very class of people whose interests she claims to represent as if they were little more than dirt.

If this is her bedrock attitude towards the adopted people who disagree with her tactically, is it then any wonder when some of us reject any notion that she speaks for us, or speaks on behalf of our interests?

Perhaps other Illinois legislators simply never get to see this side of her. Behavior like this appears to be reserved for those whose rights she claims (falsely) to champion.

With ‘champions’ like this, why should she be the least bit surprised when those of us who will accept nothing short of human and civil rights for adopted people speak out?

Human rights are for everyone, not merely a lucky few.

If Representative Feigenholtz believes that, she should have pushed for a genuine adoptee rights bill.

If she doesn’t believe human rights should apply to all of us, then naturally, other adopted people are going to state the obvious, why the hell not?

If she (or her staff?) are unable to deal with adopted people’s demand for full equality, not yet another broken system of rights for some at the direct expense of others, then perhaps it’s long past time she relinquish this self bestowed mantle of advocate for adoptee rights and leave the work to those in Illinois, more than willing work for the real.

Representative Feigenholtz, your condescension and outright contempt for your fellow adoptees is nothing short of appalling.

-Lauren Sabina Kneisly


ACT II

Lori’s note brought up a simple truth:

This bill will prove to a huge population of citizens that Democrats should not longer govern the State of Illinois. It is with deep regret, as a Democrat, to see this bill and your inability to stand up for ALL citizens in the State of Illinois.

In the House, a number of Republicans voted for the bill, but when it came to the Senate, the votes on HB 5428 were remarkably partisan.

It was Democrats voting the bill through, ultimately voting to eviscerate adoptee rights in Illinois, even as most likely thought they were voting for an actual adoptee rights bill (considering the marketing spin Representative Feigenholtz and the media put on the bill.)

What Ms. Jeske was pointing out was that many adoptees will neither forget, nor forgive the fact that it was Democrats who handed handed over the devastating loss to actual adoptee rights in the State Senate.

Adopted people may be a minority but for some, this is more than an issue, this is our lives, and in some cases, it will likely affect people’s votes. She did nothing more than point out that this stance may in whatever small way, have political consequences.

For many adoptees who are Democrats then, it is a particular form of heartbreak watching Representatives such as Sara Feigenholtz (whose record and stances on other ‘issues’ near and dear to Democratic hearts is otherwise so human rights based, be that for women, for Queers, the elderly etc.) refuse to ask for full human rights for ALL adopted people.

When it comes to Bastards, adoptee Democrats feel a particular betrayal to see what they would deem an otherwise solid candidate sell “her own” out.

If Governor Pat Quinn (himself a Democrat) signs the bill, sadly, it will be Democrats that will have screwed Illinois adoptees for generations to come.

Is it any surprise then, when adoptees who are also Democrats are horrified? Horrified enough to write the primary sponsor of the bill expressing their disappointment?

Year after year Illinois adoptees were told to wait until a golden moment arrived when enough Democrats were in power before an adoptee rights bill could pass.

As Bastard Grannie Annie lays out, Representative Feigenholtz had an opportunity, a moment if you will, a “best chance” to actually get a real bill through. Instead, she wasted the opportunity, and pushed HB 5428, a bill that will actually FURTHER ERODE many adopted people’s existing rights in Illinois.

Are adopted people angry? Certainly, especially those who actually listened to those saying ‘we just need a few more seats’ and actually went to work for candidates or donated money, thinking that if the electoral strategy worked, they too, might have their moment.

On the other hand, a number of Republicans rejected the bill (the position those of us who want a genuine rights bill asked elected officials to take.) But, many voted “no” apparently by and large NOT out of genuine support for actual adoptee rights, but out of abortion related fears projected onto the vote.

Again, part of what Ms. Jeske was getting at, is that for some adoptees, especially those who have now been betrayed so deeply by the Democrats, their votes may well go to Republican candidates (not out of political fluency, but out of anger, not realizing that many of the Republicans who voted against the bill are no champions of Bastard rights either.)

Ultimately, Bastards, are left with no standard bearer, not the Democrats, not Republicans, and now demonstrably, certainly not Representative Feigenholtz herself.

Those advocating full restoration of all adopted people’s rights were left not merely without a champion, but quite literally almost without a voice, as only a single adopted person was allowed to testify in the Judicial Committee hearing. (See the comments on this post and this direct link to a copy of the testimony itself.)

By the time the full Senate vote was taken, Senators had confused her testimony against the bill as reasons she ‘supported’ the bill!


ACT III

As if all of this wasn’t somehow twisted enough?

There’s also the question of whether or not the American Adoption Congress had the faintest idea it was on record as being in support of the bill.

According to 73adoptee, who was present for the Judiciary Committee hearing, Melisha Mitchell signed in as a proponent of the bill representing the American Adoption Congress (AAC.)

Which would be all fine and well, except apparently, the AAC no longer considered her their state representative at the time!

Quoting from part II of Bastardette’s important series Deja Vu All Over Again-Sneaky Sara Feigenholtz:

Mitchell runs the White Oak Foundation, a putative non-profit search company that according to its webpage does free and at-cost adoption searches. Despite her long record of writing and promoting bills whose object is in direct conflict with the American Adoption Congress’ policies, Mitchell was, until recently, the AAC Illinois State Rep. Why she remained in the fold until a few weeks ago, associating the AAC with her tom-foolery and really bad bills is one of those AdoptionLand mysteries we can only ponder. I have been assured by the AAC that she no longer represents the organization in any capacity, despite her reported sign-in last week, at the Senate hearing. (see “respond” link above). Her name does not appear on the organization website.

The American Adoption Congress may now also be surprised to find itself supposedly having a representative on the OBC-Access Public Information Campaign Oversight Committee formed by HB 5428.

So now we’re left with a critically important question:

Does the American Adoption Congress actually support this bill that will do incredible damage to Illinois adoptee’s rights, *OR* was the bill’s passage built upon Melisha Mitchell lying and claiming to represent the AAC when in fact she had been dropped by the AAC as its one time Illinois state representative prior to the Judiciary Committee hearing?

Currently, the AAC website lists no state representative for Illinois and until recently made no mention of the bill it’s supposedly a proponent of in its legislative section. As the website stands tonight,  a section on the bill has since been added, but makes no mention of any AAC support for it, nor any mention of AAC participation in the oversight committee HB 5428 would create.

If the AAC’s alleged “support” for the bill and presumed representative on the oversight committee formed by the bill in any way influenced the votes of elected officials, this could have vast ramifications.

The AAC was the primary nationwide group of adoptees that was to be represented on the OBC-Access Public Information Campaign Oversight Committee.

If the AAC, (or perhaps more accurately, the AAC seat Melisha Mitchell may have tried to arrange for herself,) is not on the committee then a committee that was always overwhelmingly representative of the adoption industry will find itself with few if any voices of adoptees at all. From HB 5428:

OBC-Access Public Information Campaign Oversight Committee comprised of

  • representatives of the Department of Public Health and the Department of Children
  • and Family Services,

as well as one representative from each of
the following organizations:

  • Adoptees, Birth Parents and Adoptive Parents Together
  • Adoption Advocates of America
  • Adoptive Families Today
  • Agudath Israel of America
  • American Adoption Congress
  • The Baby Fold
  • Catholic Conference of Illinois
  • Chicago Area Families for Adoption
  • Chicago Bar Association
  • Child Care Association of Illinois
  • Children’s Home and Aid Society of Illinois
  • Child Welfare Advisory Council
  • The Cradle
  • Healing Hearts; For Birth Parents by Birthparents
  • Illinois Foster Parents Association
  • Illinois State Bar Association
  • Illinois State Medical Society
  • LDS Social Services
  • Lutheran Social Services of Illinois
  • Maryville Academy
  • Midwest Adoption Center
  • St. Mary’s Services
  • and Stars of David

Postscript

As I have from the beginning, I continue to oppose this bill, only more so in light of the ugliness and potential deception now surrounding it.

I continue to urge readers to please contact Governor Quinn and ask he veto this travesty of a bill.